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  1. I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. I agree resonate and agree with everything you’ve shared as I too this past May shaved my head for the first time. And I love it! For all the reasons you stated 🙂

    1. Thank you so much Jennifer for leaving a comment 🙂 I’m so glad you enjoyed this post and took the time to let me know.
      It encourages me to keep sharing!

  2. I wear my head shaved and love it. and yes I feel sexy with this cut. When I grew my hair out I didn’t feel like this. And I get a lot of complements from men and women. but I do get those stares as if their wondering why, but I’m sure those are the women who are all about hair and the men who feel women should have hair. And that’s fine too. Yes I love my buzzcut

    1. Ah! The stares! It’s sooo much easier to handle all the attention you receive from others when you already know that YOU love your buzzcut. Then the rest matters a little less. I kinda struggled in the beginning when people asked me all the time: “but, why??”. As if I had to justify myself, in some way. Then it got easier. I’m so glad you are happy with your decision 😉 Thanks for stopping by, Diane!

  3. Yes, thank you for your story. I can relate most of it. I just shaved my head again for the 5th time. It’s like a fresh start and new beginning after a very hard few years. More women should read your story and others to know it’s not wrong to shave your hair bald.

    1. Thank you for commenting Alyse, it’s interesting to know that I’m not the only one feeling this way 🙂

  4. I’ve always had short hair not real short, but short. I used different products to grow my hair. I wanted at least shoulder length. I always made it to what they call “the ugly stage” so I either had to cut it into a style or look crazy. I always opt to cut it. Until I had no choice but to cut it all off instead of watching it fall slowly out from cancer. Moving forward it took me a while to embrace the new look but each time I looked at myself in the mirror I began to like what I seen; the bald look. I got so many compliments from men and woman I loved it; it helped my esteem. My hair began to grow and I thought again this time it will grow how I want, but to no avail it still didn’t. Now l keep my sides shaved with a little on the top. I haven’t came to grips of cutting it all off yet. I’m not ready for the questions or curious stare “did your cancer come back? Right now there’s NO MORE STRESS, money and time being saved and I’m happy????

    1. Hey Sabrina, I apologize for the delayed answer! I’m not sure how, but I seem to have missed your comment, sorry! :/
      Thank you for sharing your story. I do hope you are feeling better now and recovering well (?) You sound like you have such a positive attitude and strong spirit. It is truly inspiring, thank you!

      On an another note, I too, spent about 3-4 years in “the ugly stage” (curly hair grows oh so slowly!), until I finally shaved it. So you had me laughing there 🙂
      Stay happy, and take care of yourself.

  5. This post was exactly what the doctor ordered!!!! I love the honest and the simplicity of this post! It resonated with me on all aspects of my life.

  6. I believe you. From number one to fifteen i can relate! Going Bald is like uncovering, discovering this beauty in you that only a few can realize and relate to. It feels soo good and refreshing cutting it, cleaning it, moisturizing it, touching it, letting it be And keeping it warm. ????

    There’s a huge huge shift inside out, And it’s so amazing!

  7. Yes I’m too a Bald Chick and I absolutely love it!!!!! Good skin healthy scalp always cute and clean cut !!! Oh and hubby love’s it too !!!!! Never growing my hair back!!!

    1. That’s awesome! My SO had to get used to it… :/ I’m glad I still kept it short regardless, because he eventually started to like it too. It does make life easier when your hubby likes your hair 🙂

  8. Shaving my head gave me a passion of Clarity. I had a Brain Tumor Removed in 2018 which left me with a long scar and somewhat of a deep cut where the surgery was performed. Iam very comfortable with the scars bec it lets other women know that there is a beauty inside that you are not afraid to deny. Sort of like my new Birth Mark. Iam soooo happy I did. Iam Truly Free.

    1. Oh Lynn, your comment is truly inspiring. I have nothing to add to this, only : thank you for sharing ???? I hope you are still well and strong.

  9. Stella says .
    December25 2022 .Buzzed my hair two weeks ago .Wore turbans because everyone wanted to know if I had cancer .I. Look different .Why do I worry what people think ?

    1. Hi Stella. Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s normal to care what people think. How could you not? It’s just that, ideally, we want to care more about what WE think than what others think. But I mean, it’s never FUN to always have to deal with other people’s comments. However, one thing I’ve learned is that, in most uncomfortable situations, the discomfort only lasts a while in the beginning and then fades once you face it. This means, that if you face other people’s comments about your hair, it will be uncomfortable at first, but then, gradually you get used to it, and you learn how to address the comments (with humour, or sass). Wish you the best, and thank you for commenting 😉

  10. I love this post!! Thank you for listing everything so perfectly. I buzzed my hair almost three years ago, during Covid, because my short hair was driving me crazy and I couldn’t get a haircut. I had always wanted to buzz my hair but never had the nerve, and now, I have never looked back!

    I can really relate to everything you said, including feeling more confident and feminine. I never liked having hair and just put up with it because I felt like society expected me to have hair. I never felt special or cool enough to rock a shaved head but I was able to break free of that and just be myself. Of course, a few people stared, and one person at my job asked “why did you cut your hair so short!?” So I decided to just be honest. “Because I don’t like having hair on my head.” It was freeing to just say that! She was like, huh. Like she never thought everyone might not feel the same way as she did. Lol.

    The best part, besides all the great things you listed, is how many elderly women come up to me and say, you look great, I would LOVE to do that to my hair! I honestly hear that twice a week at least. And how many elderly men give me compliments. And how many little kids talk to me about it. One girl even said, “I’d love to do that to my hair, but my mom won’t let me.” Made me sad. But I told her when she was older she could do whatever she wanted with her hair.

    Anyway, your post made my day. Thanks!! Oh, and I have just recently been trying to work on my posture. Any tips? Thanks!!

    1. Hi Betsy, I’m so sorry for my late reply. I love your comment, thank you! I sent you a private email. Hope it will reach you.
      Take care!

  11. 2 days ago, I shave my head. I took a picture and posted my complete bald head on social media. I was met with cautious questions – I even got asked if am well. Tonight, I could’nt sleep because in the morning am going to the office. Am glad I came across your article – you understand the African mindset about hair. You have given me courage. Am hoing to ROCK my baldy! ✊????????

    1. Hey Lucy! Thank you so much for posting your comment. You know, the same thing happened to me. The first few people I told about it, their reaction was, humm…. It’s as if it was THEIR hair that had been shaved! It made me feel so insecure. I started doubting myself. But then again, it was covid, I didn’t ‘have’ to see anyone, and I wore a beenie for the occasional work zoom calls. And I stopped telling people I knew about my buzzcut. I just rocked it proudly out in the streets for a few days/weeks, and waited as long as possible before having to face my family and friends. By the time I did, I was so in love with my hair, what they thought didn’t matter anymore.

      And once people see you radiate self-love and confidence, they start envying you deep down. and then they say: “I want to cut my hair too”.

      It’s an amazing feeling. I hope you are still rocking your bady proudly. The BEST way to accessorize a bald head is with ATTITUDE!
      Take care ❤️

  12. I’m an older woman and I’ve been shaving my hair since 1980. It wasn’t the norm back then but now I get plenty of compliments. I let it grow during the winter months but as soon as Spring comes around off with the hair.

    I love it ❤️ ♥️ ???? .

    1. Hi Donna, this is so cool! I like that you still get compliments even decades later. I mean, I can’t be the only one who enjoys feeling attractive once in a while :). Thank you for stopping by and sharing!

  13. After cutting my hair very very short tonight, I came across your article. I love how you buzz cut your hair. Hair does not define a person. I just cut my hair very very short because my hair has been falling out leaving bald patches. Don’t know why. But cutting it very short, I feel that my scalp can breathe. I’m 69 and I love the very short cut. ????

    1. Hi Chan, Thanks for leaving a comment! It must not have been easy to deal with all these changes. You’re right, hair does not define a person but sometimes, when you go through a sudden dramatic physical change, it does feel as if the old “you” has died and getting used to the new “you” is a process. Oh well, I’m so happy you like your new cut! It sure makes things easier to deal with 🙂

  14. Hi Elle,
    I went as far as buzz cut sides and back, I feel like hiding out from the world. I get strange looks, no man ever shows attraction towards me. My husband hates it and just dont comment at all when he used to compliment me daily. Ive gained weight and now just hate life because I feel Im just old and ugly. Im trying to read everything to gain confidence but still feeling depressed. This weekend is my family reunion and Im thinking of just wearing a wig. I dont know what to do to feel pretty again. I joined a dating site but put an old pic as profile and so many men responded, it I put a now pic up I know they will all go away….Im going through a divorce also. Any thing you could suggest? Thank you.

    1. Hi Patricia,

      I’m so sad reading your comment. I wish I could find the right words, the right things to say to help make things better. One thing for sure, I understand what you might be going through. At least, partly. I always found it extremely difficult to figure my own sh**t out while dealing with family’s comments about me, my life or my decisions. It got to a point where it was so unbearable, so suffocating, I constantly felt like hiding. (I kind of was, actually, hiding. From life. From every one. I wasn’t living fully, and I was hiding in every way).

      I finally managed to deal with that, break free from their opinions, comments about me, etc. and finally hear my own voice and figure my sh*t out. I did that (partly) by putting good distance between (most of) them and me for almost a year.

      That also included my (then) boyfriend. We loved eachother very much, but I didn’t feel good about myself when with him. (Sidenote: we weren’t together when I shaved my head but he hated it too. Like, really). 3 years later, we got back together, I do feel good about myself WITH him now, and now he loves my buzz cut.

      The only thing that’s changed between then and now? Me.

      I changed myself first, and that, in turn, helped changed the people around me and their attitude towards me.

      What I’m talking about here is self confidence and self love: building self trust, learning to respect your decisions, your opinions and yourself.

      I mean, why did you shave your hair in the first place?

      Also, maybe this other post might help: https://ofironandvelvet.com/how-can-you-love-your-body-when-you-hate-your-looks/

      Anyway, that story probably doesn’t help you at all… Or maybe it will (?) In the long run.
      In any case, I wanted to share that with you.

      Good luck with your family dinner. If wearing a wig is what it takes for you to catch a break and not have people on your back, then wear a wig! Why not have fun with it and pick someting outrageous, or different? Like fiery red hair, or a bob? I mean, might as well get used to the attention 🙂 Cuz, one thing is certain, a buzz cut will attract attention.

      Let me know how it goes ❤️

      P.S. I’ve written other posts on the topic, did you see them?

      https://ofironandvelvet.com/i-hate-my-buzz-cut-what-should-i-do/
      https://ofironandvelvet.com/make-a-buzz-cut-look-good/
      + the one I mentionned above:
      https://ofironandvelvet.com/how-can-you-love-your-body-when-you-hate-your-looks/

  15. Thank you for writing this article. I ran into it by accident, and I’m glad I did. I love the way you write. I have gone between long and short ( but not totally shaved) hair my whole life. At the age of 5 my mom got her friend to cut it into a pixie after she spent long, grueling sessions detangling my fine curls. My father had been against it but when he saw how hard my hair was to manage, he relented. Her friend was worried I’d hate her for cutting it, so she told mom she would only cut it if mom did a first crop, so she blunt cut it to my shoulders. The freedom! After hair down past my bottom, I felt so free. Then her friend left me with a short pixie and I was liberated. Never hated her for it. I I realize it has been a while that this was posted, and you might not be checking responses, but I wanted to thank you. You touched on a lot of truths about having a buzzed or bald head.

    1. aw, Jackie, Thank you so much for your kind words, and for sharing! 🖤 I love how thoughtful your mom and her friends have been in regards to your feelings. I had a friend back in primary school who went through something similar. Overnight, her mom shaved her head, and she endured nearly two years of misery. However, her hair eventually grew back even more beautiful than before, and everything returned to normal (if anything, everyone in school was now jealous of her hair). It could have been much more dramatic though. Thank goodness it ended well 🙂

      Anyway, this is a lovely story. Thank you for sharing!

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